“What the world needs now is love, sweet love”[i]… Perhaps that’s more true than usual in these uncertain times of a pandemic. However, we’d probably mostly agree it’s what all of us hope for in our lives, whether it’s platonic, passionate, familial or of friends. Certainly, in my own life one of the key gratitudes I have is for the love I’ve received from Mr Cassmob, my family and my friends. Love makes life so much richer. The rosy glow of early courtship may pass but with luck the love continues and a happy life ensues – not one without its ups and downs, but overall satisfying.
When researching our family history we often start looking for marriages to follow the ancestral lines of those who begat us. For me, that’s the bare bones of genealogy – the framework on which we pin the names and dates of those who’ve been pivotal to us being on earth. What comes next is building up the stories that we find until we get some sense of them as people. It seems strange in some ways to think of them in that first dizzy dose of love, but one assumes that they probably felt much as we did when it happened to us. Some cases may have been pragmatic decisions of religious or personal compatibility, financial stability, loneliness and distance from family and those factors may have played a part in their relationship. Unfortunately, without a diary or journal we have no way of getting an insight into their love. So, we are left looking at the photographic newspaper records of the wedding and the celebrations by friends and family. Longevity of marriage might be relevant, but not necessarily an indication of love’s endurance.
Love falls apart
Unfortunately, the anticipated happiness and compatibility doesn’t always happen, love disappears, and the marriage falls apart. Desertion, domestic abuse, bigamy or divorce may follow. In the earlier days of “blame game” divorce, the story of a marriage’s disintegration was played out in court and in public through the newspaper coverage. Trove certainly brings all the lurid details to light, but we do have to be careful when researching these stories, especially if you don’t know which of the local newspapers are likely to be scurrilous or salacious. It always pays to read each and every news article to distil the data and the anomalies. Let me give you one example from my extended family.
Agnes Eileen Cronin[ii] married William Thomas Kunkel on 27 October 1915 at Toowoomba: she was 19 and he was 23. The marriage apparently fell apart and Agnes left the home in 1921, relocated to Brisbane and changed her name to Dorothy Edwards. She subsequently bigamously married a man called David Scott telling him she’d been born in Toronto, Canada (not Queensland), and her father was James Edwards, perhaps to explain why she would have no kin at the marriage. Kunkel filed for divorce in early 1929 and it came before the court in April 1929.
Anyone from Brisbane knows the reputation of the old “Truth” newspaper which definitely falls into the scurrilous category. The reporting was sensational bordering on hysterical. The defendant’s barrister claimed that Agnes had been forced to marry William when she was 15 and that he was 20 years older, as well as making assertions about his character and behaviour[iii].
Other newspapers carried more considered reports of the trial but one of the interesting things, to me, is that William’s photo was used in many of the articles. It was if he was the one under judgement and not his wife being tried for bigamy and desertion. Different reporters focused on some different points or added extra from the trial that had not already been reported. In a strange twist to the tale, Agnes’s mother even defended her son-in-law saying that he’d never known him to strike his wife and that the separation had arisen from money matters.
After much to-ing and fro-ing, including referral to the Attorney General, the divorce was resolved in William’s favour. The couple’s respective ages at marriage were formally recognised by the court and Justice Macrossan acknowledged that William’s reputation had suffered as a result of the mis-reporting[iv]. The decree nisi absolute was confirmed in November 1929 and soon afterwards William remarried. Both Agnes and William must have been relieved to have this behind them and for their “dirty linen” to no longer be broadcast through the news and a general topic of conversation in the community. I can find no reference to Agnes after the divorce under the surnames of Cronin, Kunkel, Edwards or Scott, nor any trees on Ancestry. I wonder what her daughter was called and where they went to live after the divorce. Did Agnes change their name again?
I suppose I’m a tad biased myself and feel for William, one of my grandfather’s younger brothers. He lost both parents within six weeks in 1901 when he was only a lad of nine. Later his son Robert would be Missing in Action in Korea, never to know what had happened to him.
While Rod Stewart’s advice on the matter of love and the law is pertinent to this case, perhaps it’s not very wise:
Only a fool permits the letter of the law to override the spirit in the heart. Do not let a piece of paper stand in the way of true love and headlines. Rod Stewart, Scottish musician.
When you discover something like this through Trove, it is worth following up in the official documentation of the court[v] and the judge’s notebooks[vi] where they have survived. I’ve done this with my grandmother’s divorce following the story in the news but more importantly in the trial documents.
The departure of love and the involvement of the law is sad and can be a human tragedy. We need to feel empathy for our family members and treat their misfortunes with respect.
Have you seen examples of great love, or the loss of it, in your ancestral families?
Have you acquired a list for post-isolation research, as I have, while doing your A to Z challenge or reading?
Quotes from https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/
[i] A popular song from 1965 with lyrics by Hal David and music composed by Burt Bacharach. First recorded and made popular by Jackie DeShannon
[ii] Birth and marriage registered as Agnes Lillian Cronin, daughter of James Patrick Cronin and Helen/Ellen Leonard.
[iii] DRAMA OF LOVE (1929, January 13). Truth (Brisbane, Qld. : 1900 – 1954), p. 13. Retrieved April 15, 2020, from http://nla.gov.au/nla.news-article198312619
[iv] HEART-BROKEN MOTHER SPEAKS AGAINST DAUGHTER (1929, August 4). Truth (Brisbane, Qld. : 1900 – 1954), p. 11. Retrieved April 15, 2020, from http://nla.gov.au/nla.news-article203921305
Also Kunkel Divorce (1929, July 29). The Telegraph (Brisbane, Qld. : 1872 – 1947), p. 6 (5 ‘O CLOCK CITY EDITION). Retrieved April 15, 2020, from http://nla.gov.au/nla.news-article182975879
[v] Item ID 1669670, Queensland State Archives, Kunkel v Kunkel, Court transcript (Civil), shorthand. Also Item 1669639, Court transcript (Civil) (hopefully not shorthand!) Also Item 1669757.
[vi] Series 18554 at Queensland State Archives. Also Item ID 99975, Judge H Macrossan notebooks 1927-1929.
12 thoughts on “Love and the Law”
Those newspaper reports were salacious. It is fortunate I suppose that my grandmother’s divorce was not written up in the papers in any detail. However her ex husband’s previous divorce was there for all to read in great detail. She should have read it before she married him.
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I guess it might have been a clue if he had “issues”
I guess that they didn’t have the ready access to the papers we have now and would have had to rely on word of mouth, or remember reading it at the time.
Wow! How do you manage to trace the true person’s history when they choose to change their name? Would be very difficult I imagine to get to the truth.
I’m thinking that if the mother changed their name, the daughter may have had no idea. She may be wondering why she can find no trace of her ancestry. Perhaps this is where DNA links might help. Luckily she’s not a relative of my great uncle so my interest is hypothetical.
Congrats on 50 years! Love the photo!
My father and his siblings never knew their father was married (and had a daughter) before until the oldest brother died and his wife had a stroke. My uncle’s wife knew because she met the daughter at college, but she never told a soul. Now she thought she’d better tell them before it’s too late, and they were all in their late 80s! Surprise!!! …that’s why they had no knowledge of their grandparents or family on that side!
My grandfather (Pop) married Emma and their daughter was born three months later. Shortly after he moved to another city. Emma and the daughter lived with his parents until they died, and my grandfather was cut off from the family. Nine years later he met my grandmother and went to establish residence in the US for a year then filed for divorce. One month after divorce was granted my grandmother and her mother traveled to the US where they married. No scandal, or even a whisper! My grandparents had a great marriage and a wonderful life.
When I found out I traced all the paper trail… AND a great granddaughter of Emma and my Pop. I told all my family I arbitrarily invited her to the next family reunion and they all welcomed her with open arms! She was so emotional as she thought she had no family on her fathers side (only child of Emma’s daughter).
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That would have been quite a surprise!! I suspect families often kept these secrets but confined to only a handful of people. I’m glad that your grandparents had a happy life together and that your family welcomed Emma’s daughter.
My great grandmother and her sister were both divorced but there are no newspaper stories and I only know what my mother told me. and they might not have been legally divorced but just gone their own ways. Since it was my great grandmother’s 2nd husband and no relation to me, I am prepared to believe he was the blackguard my mother painted him. As was my great aunts gambling ner’do well husband. Luckily they were bot seamstresses and supported themselves and their children after the splits.
I’m sure it’s almost as hard to sort fact from fiction in personal stories as it is from newspaper reports. There’s a natural inclination to support your own kin unless evidence points otherwise. Having employment skills was certainly important for women to survive.
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